I am lying in bed at 6.14am, listening to my husband and little baby snore. Waiting for my 3yO to walk in any minute with a burst of energy. Asking me for a million and one things and yelling to me “Mommy, don’t be tired” enough times for me to just drag myself out of bed.
I don’t drink coffee so I guess I will have to force myself to wake up and start the day in my own kind of way. A cup of Rooibos and some Oats. I recently discovered an amazing breakfast mix. Half Oats porridge plus half Pronutro with a teaspoon of brown sugar, a little scoop of margerine (not butter) and lots of milk. Myyyyy gooooodnessss me! You have to try it.
Anywho, lately I think a lot about my life and finding a way to live more purposefully. Being a master at something, using time more resourcefully, getting more quality out of the day. Here is a quick list of how I plan to do that. It might help you too if you are a parent living from moment to moment and somewhat haphazardly.
Goals, goals, goals.
I think it starts with setting goals for myself. What do I actually want for my life and those around me. What do we need as a family. On a daily basis and long term one. So a good example is better planned meals, setting up an eating plan, walking more with the kids is another example of a daily goal.
A long term plan I have with hubby is to travel more. With two kids, fees, the need to move into a bigger home and buy bigger cars, traveling seems like a backseat dream that might just have to be parked. Well no it isn’t. It’s something that means a lot to us as a couple. So it must be on our goals list.
Goal setting is the beginning of living the life you want for your family. I am ready to start my list.
Routine and habits
My family thrives on a routine. One that makes all the tasks like bathing the kids, more manageable and planned. It allows for planning the day around what needs to get done. My family thrives on routine, I repeated that, because this makes a huge difference in everyone’s moods, eating habits, quality of the day and for the kids their growth and development.
In our house the routine relies heavily on me, Sergeant Mommy. I’m the stricter one in this aspect. It’s my role in the house and I have to take ownership of it and run this Mothership!
Our newborn has thrown us off in terms of routine. Currently there is some intense juggling and the balancing act is quite exhausting. A routine HAS to be established and NOW. Baby is 10 weeks now and is slowly establishing her own routine that I can start to incorporate into the family one.
This is so CRUCIAL to prioritize, especially as a mommy. This is a challenge that scares me. How and when can I fit in alone time? The family needs me 24/freakin/7. Well at least I think they do. But I know that’s hogwash. Complete nonsense. A little time for myself is possible, I just need to be more selfish about such needs. It’s a learning process I guess. I will get there.
Time to be young and silly
Yes, that is it, it’s time to be young and silly. As the Joker in Batman says, “why so serious?”. Or did I make that up?
I can barely stay awake through movies so I might have dreamt that. No but really, we are on edge as parents at times. We take life far too seriously.We are so burnt out and over it. Sometimes we need to let go. I need to come to terms with a messy house. Puzzles with missing pieces and Lego on the floor waiting to be stepped on. I need to say yes when 3yO is begging to go to the park and just play with her like I am a kid again.
Maybe watch more comedy and listen to music in the mornings more. Dance in the kitchen and let the dishes do themselves or not, who the hell cares but the roaches? LOL, I think you get my point.
Respect my body
This I have to do not only for me but for my family. I have to eat better and EXERCISE. That is in caps because I am a lazy cow who just moans after one day of working out. I hate the muscle aches that avid gym goers love to feel because it tells them they pushed. I actually don’t want to push myself in the gym, I want to exit.
This must change. Health is wealth. Health is being giving yourself a better chance of spending a longer life with those that matter to you.
Good health means a better quality of life. More energy, better sleep and hopefully a lighter mood. Very importantly, a better working brain.
Let me work on these daily and see who I become slowly overtime.
We recorded a podcast episode about the juggling we do as parents. Give it a listen and share your thoughts? What are you juggling?
Do you need to do a quality life check with yourself to implement some new ways of living? Please share in the comments section below, what you do to make your life meaningful and purposeful.