Today was such a challenge for me. I write this post for people who are expecting a new baby with a toddler in the home.
My daughter turns 3 next month and is definitely going through something developmental that is making her act out. She doesn’t want to be told what to do and is actively testing the boundaries of what she can get away with. I caught her being physical with my niece 3 times this week. The last incident she had a stick and was hitting her with it. She has been back chatting and refusing to do things I ask her to do. She said to me today, “mommy I am naughty.” No shame, actually claiming and owning it. Proud to be naughty.
We were meant to go to a braai this afternoon and I just failed to change my mood. Being pregnant makes it harder for me to handle these situations. Getting her dressed today was a fight. She messed up every room we were in and by the end of it all I just wanted to stay home and sob. Which I did.
I wasn’t only crying because she terrorised my morning. My husband had been at football for an hour and a half and thought in that time we would be ready to go. I just felt like I am not capable of everything I was when I wasn’t pregnant and sometimes I just need a break.
So I opted out of the braai plans, stayed home, ordered some Nandos and watched 4 episodes of Insecure till I passed out. Best decision I have made in a while.
By the time threenager and her dad got back I was a completely different person.
What I want to share and emphasise is that when you are feeling underneath it all take the time out for yourself to do whatever you need to do to feel okay. Shed the necessary tears, find something that will cheer you up, zone out or unwind. And be gentle with yourself.
Happy Sunday xo