Almost 3 years in the game and I am still a rookie mom. I found myself on Google two weeks ago typing a question that as a mom of a toddler I had no clue about and it hit me that I really still am a rookie at this. In actual fact, we will always have rookie elements to parenting because of every age and stage being different and new.
Okay I won’t keep you in suspense about the question, you might need the answer yourself. The question was “Why is my toddler suddenly pooping in her underwear every day after going through potty training successfully?!” I would have liked to add WTF at the beginning but I might not have found good search results.
So it turns out that in some cases kids who are fully potty trained may regress due to varying reasons, both positive or negative. It could be a sudden change such as a new baby, a holiday away or a new school. For my daughter, it happened when her school closed for holidays. I don’t know if that was the reason but I think the change in routine might have off set it. So how do we wake up from this type of parenting nightmare without going back to diapers. Below are my findings from Dr Google and some other investigating:
Tackling Potty Training Regression
- First of all, be patient. It is not uncommon and is a phase that will pass. Getting all worked up and upset won’t help you or your little one. I must confess, I was giving my daughter long lectures about my disappointment and how big girls should not being pooping in their pants. I played on the shame game and told her all her friends at preschool would think she is a baby. Looking back, that was not cool, but as parents you will do whatever it takes to avoid scrubbing a poopy panty. I spoke to her teacher and she told me to avoid making a big deal of it and just tell her it is okay and next time she should use the potty.
- Your little one might just be an absent-minded baby that gets distracted easily. When there is a lot of fun and play happening or the television is on, they might ignore the signs of needing to go. The best this to do is set a timer to check every hour if they need to go.
- Another issue to tackle could be the fear of the potty or toilet. You bubba may be scared of the sound of the flush, the thought of the water in the loo or something else that they might have imagined. In this case you need to get find out what the fear is and address it. Find ways to reassure your little one that they are safe and that you are right there. Also try and dispel the idea they have of what it is they are scared of.
- Some children just do not want to be told what to do. Hahahahaha! Forgive me for laughing but these kids are legends in my books. Like, you just can’t tell them anything. This can be rather frustrating but this is where you need to practice the art of negotiation. Be cool and try not to be too strict about it, because this will only worsen the desire to rebel. Teach them the concept of cause and effect. Perhaps remove the diaper/underpants and let them mess up. When they do mess up, explain why it isn’t so great to avoid the potty and let him/her help you clean up the mess.
*Most of my insight is from a video on Parents
I hope this helps you if you are going through the same. I must say we are back to our regular potty routine and all is well in the Cherry home 😊. If you haven’t started potty training yet and you need to prepare, read our inside scoop about the poop!