Being a mom is incredibly difficult. Yes, it is the best thing that could have ever happened to me. The love that comes with a baby that is your own is impossible to describe and I wouldn’t change it for anything. But I will repeat, it is incredibly difficult.
The past three weeks have been a bit heavy for me. Waking up hasn’t been easy and getting on with the day has been such a task. And what has sucked the most is that I have had to still be good a mom to my little one even when I just feel like feeling sorry for myself.
The ‘why’ behind the way I have been feeling is not relevant because nothing major happened, I still have a job, my marriage is intact and I am blessed to have a roof on my head. The point of my post is to share a heartbreaking story that put my 3-week pity party to shame.
Last weekend I met an amazing and strong woman going through a tragic and depressing stage in her life. Her name is Abigail. She was serving my sister and I at a Chinese restaurant in the area. If you know Ida, you are well aware that she loves to chat to any and every one, in detail and at great length! So obviously, she was chatting to Abigail and we soon learnt that her husband died two years ago, and that day was his birthday. Needless to say, she was very low and teary whilst serving us but doing a really good job at keeping it together.
Her husband left behind 2 children, a 5 year old and an 8 year old but she does not really get to spend time with them because she is busy working to make a living for them. She had to keep the 5yo in nursery school because she can’t afford to pay R 800 for each of them to attend primary school.
She works 6 days a week, whilst she is at work the 8yo is looking after the 5yo. Just the two of them, alone at home. Abigail makes between R 2000 and R 2500 a month. Her kid’s fees work out to R 1300 a month and her rent is R 900. My question is what about food, toiletries, clothes and transport?
It broke our hearts listening to her story. It really put my own life into perspective. Here I am complaining about motherhood being difficult. That day Ida and I promised we would do all we can to help Abigail improve her circumstances. Starting by sharing her story.
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