So what happens to your marriage or relationship after baby? Do you just pick up from where you left off? Is the spark still the same?
I am very new to this and that is why I am asking. This is my first time doing this kind of thing. When I think of my husband and I now, it’s almost like a distant memory thinking of the fun we used to have. Don’t get me wrong, the love is still very much there, but the spark and the energy has shifted.
Before baby we used to party together, all the time. We used to go out for dinner very often in a week and talk and laugh endlessly over countless glasses of wine. Now when we do go out for dinner, which is a rare outing, we are so conscious of how long the day was and how long tomorrow will be that we don’t let loose and just have fun. Conversation isn’t as fresh and exciting, it’s more of a recap on how work was or a giggle at something funny our toddler did the other day. Is that just what being a new parent means?
Even our hangovers aren’t the same. It takes almost two days to recover from a good night out. Now throw in a busy and attention seeking toddler in to that scenario. As a result the decision to go out and party isn’t an easy one, but is more of a long debate on whether it will be worth it or not. That usually serves as a bedtime story for us.
Going to the movies, perhaps? I fall asleep in most of them, if they are passed 8pm. LOL
So then, how do we reignite that flame that brought us together in the first place? That is the question and very reason behind this post. Where do we start?
I have some ideas, but please share your thoughts on this in the comments section. I would love to know what your take is on this, and what you miss from your relationship before baby. Post anonymously if you so wish 😉