Being a mother has changed my life in so many ways I could write a book, but I do not have the time to do so anymore- LOL. My idea of love has morphed into a feeling so deep and engulfing I cannot describe it. I just adore my daughter and my life feels complete. Along with this new found love, my love for my husband has somehow widened; I have seen a new soft side to him in relation our child, I have to say I have fallen in love with my daughter’s father whom I met 6 months ago in the delivery room. It is like meeting a whole new person that you fall for.
Being a mom however has brought on a few seemingly negative reactions in me.
“Words that could be used to describe, in this case, ideas or thoughts that on paper are definitely of a glass-half-empty nature. However when taken in the context of a new parent having to deal with the challenges brought about by the expansion of one’s family, and having to find means to cope, these words can actually be replaced by the words- “DEFINITELY POSITIVE”
Therefore I present to you a few DEFINITELY POSITIVE reactions to everyday living as I now know it.
1. I DON’T HAVE TIME
Generally speaking this might seem like an exaggerated statement but literally I have no time. At the beginning of the day, from the moment my eyes open from my 1 hour long sleep (after my last feed), to the moment I step into bed (after my last feed) – I have no time. And what with the parts in between, like juggling work emails and calls and meetings , to being a wife (cooking, listening, supporting, plus plus), to being in traffic, to watching my packed gym bag gather dust in my boot, to being a bad friend, to eating clean-ish. Eish- I don’t have time.
2. I DON’T HAVE TIME FOR BS
With this being a parent and baby friendly forum- I contemplated typing “I DON’T HAVE TIME FOR NONSENSE” but to be honest, it is BS that I don’t have time for and that comes in many forms, and it comes from all directions. It is generally made up of things that in the past I may have entertained or ignored; stuff that really wasn’t necessary in my life but somehow I just allowed it to accumulate and grow into piles of BS. Uh uh, I have no time for it anymore and I am not afraid to assert my position.
3. DON’T HAVE TIME FOR MYSELF
Who ever thought that shaving my legs would become a luxury? Certainly not me, but here I am today having to prioritise and focus my energy on bigger issues.
4. I DON’T HAVE TIME FOR MOVIES
I do however pretend that I do. My husband thinks that I am his movie buddy, every other night. The truth is I cannot bring myself to break his heart every time he gives me those puppy eyes and asks me “Baby should we watch a movie”. I somehow think this is his form of quality time or date night. So I almost always oblige. Never mind the fact that by the time he has purchased the movie on box office, my eyes are droopy, I am always a team player. See I have mastered the art of sleeping with my eyes open, as well as selective hearing- so when he says “Baby did you hear that”- I know exactly what to answer- “ah baby lemme go check on Mimi”. Kikikiki.
5. I DON’T HAVE TIME TO COOK LAVISH MEALS
Those university quick meals come in handy these days. My gourmet cooking has taken a back seat and as for my food blog…crickets.
6. I DON’T HAVE TIME TO REPLY TO “HI” SMS’S
7. I DON’T HAVE TIME TO READ
So I will save you some reading time and move to the next point.
8. I DON’T HAVE TIME TO SLEEP
That’s why I sleep with my eyes open.
Look out for my next post- this time I will give you an insight into the “DEFINITELY NEGATIVE THINGS THAT I UNFORTUNATELY HAVE TIME FOR”.